Ok so I am now thoroughly confused. After some google research I found the tail relay and yanked it which killed the lights. Still not sure this is 100% the problem, if I could find my meter I would check it but apparently someone borrowed it without telling me. But anyways I went online to see if any local parts stores had one and they all keep coming up with a different relay. The one in the truck was a 3 prong round metal relay and every site is telling me its a 4 prong plastic. I googled the #'s on the relay and have found that the only 4runner it fits is an 84 as a headlight relay. And apparently it's a special order part that takes a few days to get in. I have no idea what to think. It is a toyota relay so I'm thinking its never been replaced and the ones they are saying go to my truck will not fit in the fuse block. What's next???