ok sorry ill try and explain this a little better.
when i first wired the 3 wires into each harness, i had to try different combinations to get the HIDs to work when i turned my head lights on, some combinations would make the halogen bulb come on when i turned my lights on and some combinations made the HIDs turn on when i turned my headlights on and some just didnt work. And through all of these when i tried my brights, none of them worked, and most of the time, when i tried the brights with the combination where my HIDs worked then they would flicker and go out when i tried to turn on the brights.
So then i tried having one side wired and the other side wired differently and that came closer, i got the brights and the HIDs to work on one side but the brights werent that bright as they were when they were both on, like it was draining power and didnt have enough or like it just wasnt wired right.
Below i have attached an image of what my wiring harness looks like, that it what was before, plugged into the 3 prongs coming off of the halogen bulbs before i had the HIDs.
and thats where i have everything now, i just need to know if thats right or how to change each side to make the HIDs and the brights work, and also yes i understand there not at the same time.