I have the same lights, harness, and switch.
Looks like I need to hack up the opt7 harness a bit by chopping off the switch that comes with it and then connecting the AOB switch. Will be looking for an unused plug under the dash for the gray wire connection to illuminate the switch.
In looking at the opt7 harness and figuring out how to use the AOB switch instead of the supplied one, it looks like the relay connection is backwards...pin 86 is connected to battery neg, while the blue switched hot goes to 85.
If it doesn't matter that the 85/86 can be backwards, it looks I connect as follows:
AOB green - opt7 white
AOB red - opt7 blue
AOB black - opt7 black
AOB blue - to auto illumination circuit grey


