Ran back into this thread afters someone liked one of my posts. Its interesting to say the least to read some of your old posts lol..
Anyway to update, compile, and improve on the info here.
I went with 4.56's I'm very happy with them. I would have regrets about 4.88's on highway rpm's and I never could get a 4.11 option when i did finally purchase. Gas mileage change was negligible but acceleration is there all day now.
you do need a different carrier than the factory carrier to run the different gear sets above 3.91
I started with a TJM rear carrier and an ARB front carrier Nitro 4.56 gears and added a solid pinion spacer in the rear.
The TJM soleniod actuator has a slight fitment issue in the turbo v6 axle housings, it seems though all it takes to clear the issue is to dent back the inside of the housing to give a bit more inner clearance.
East Coast Gear Supply was by source and I'm very happy with there service. They happily swapped my rear carrier out to an ARB after I was unhappy with the fitment of the TJM. They also stand by a 5 year warranty on the ring an pinion setup. They send you a built front IFS diff and a rear third member you just swap out theirs for yours and ship yours back. After hooking up an air source your ready to hit the trail!