You're getting a couple things wrong, Gremcat.
a) Changing out the torsion bars will not net you more lift. Thicker torsion bars like the OME or SAW bars will let you carry more load in the front, but the only way to get lift from the torsion bars is to adjust the preload (crank them), and you can do that to stock bars or aftermarket. The only time you would need aftermarket bars is if the stock bars don't hold the weight of your front end at the height you want it, and unless you're rocking several hundred pounds extra up front, the stock bars will work fine. Don't waste your money.
b) There's nothing wrong with ball joint spacers, they're perfectly safe. I suspect that all this hoorah about them being unsafe can be traced back to Blazeland Nate (who hates them), and despite all his predictions of doom I'm not aware of anybody that's actually suffered upper control arm failure (or any other trouble) due to installation of ball joint spacers. The only part they might wear out faster is your CV boots, and that's going to happen no matter HOW you lift the front. Don't like it, get manual hubs. If you already have manual hubs, don't sweat it.
c) I ran stock length shocks with a 1.5 ball joint spacer for a couple years with no trouble, the bump stops still limited my droop before the shocks ran out of travel. If you want to keep your stock shocks for now, get your height set the way you want it, then jack up the front and let the suspension droop and see if your bumpstop fully compresses before the shock runs out of travel. If it does, you're good. If it doesn't, then you'll want to shim your bumpstops so they do, or get longer travel shocks. For what it's worth, the OME Nitrochargers are great shocks, so if you don't wanna go through all that hassle and you have the coin just pull the trigger already. There's no bumpstop in the rear, so if you want to keep those stock length Bilsteins you might want to think about some limit straps.
So - ball joint spacers in the front, then wait for the rear springs to settle some and adjust your front bars until you're happy with the stance. Then check your travel in front, and shim the stops and/or get the OME shocks as necessary.