Hi Charlie,
Thanks for adding your experience. Glad to hear Toyota reliability holds up to towing!
I am planning on getting my outfit weighed to see where I fall in that area. I really have no idea. But everything in the trailer, for the most part, is packed into storage bins with the bulk of the weight towards the front of the trailer (closest to the tongue), and the lightest bins in the back. The trailer sits level with the 4R and I really haven't had any swaying issues. But those 40 mph winds on I-95 crossing the Susquehana bridge in MD...yuck. You're totally right though, towing gives you a new-found respect for others towing. Something people who haven't towed before don't realize when they pass you, then get in front of you, then slam on the brakes. :bash:
Can you tell me more about your weight distributing hitch and sway control? I've attached a pic of my trailer.