I have decided on the Pilot.
I took a 4runner home last week for a few hours and didn't like it. It was just "blah" in my opinion but the three biggest reasons I scratched it was NO storage other than the openness but no cubbies anywhere and even the glove compartment was small. Brakes sucked. And my husband noticed something about the steering.
I had decided to just get a Kia Sorento LX to save money, figured if I didn't like it in a year I would trade in for the Pilot but after researching and researching, it just scares me to go the Kia/Hyundai route and the 2011 Sorento seems to have a suspension problem.
Last night we went to a Honda dealership to check out a 2009 Pilot Touring RES they had listed for 29700ish, of course that was a deal I would have jumped on if in good condition but it was dogged. We also drove a 2009 Pilot ESL with an added aftermarket DVD player. I really liked it but we already had a bad experience at this Honda dealership when we got the Civic SI Mugen and trying to make a deal on that Pilot just confirmed it so we walked out. I am sending my husband to the dealership where we got the Element to work with the same salesman today. If they have a used one we can get for 27000ish I told him to bring that home, if now just to see what he can work out with a new EX. I really liked test driving those 2 and riding in. As far as the road noise/ride, coming from the Element, anything will be smoother/quieter I think.