1. Not at all. The lights take up the space really well from the protrusion appearance. The protrusion is functional though. It houses the winch perfectly and allows great access to the lights and mounts, should you need it. Also, as per ARB's design the protrusion is part of their design to crumple at the mount, sparing the frame and allowing the air bags to go off at the designed intertia in a collision.
2. ARB makes a recovery point for it for about $230. Key thing here is you need to install it at the same time you do the bumper unless you feel like taking the bumper off to fit the point. That would be a PITA and why I haven't done it yet. Most of my recovery opportunities near where I live are deep sand related so I have 4 Tred Pro boards at the ready if I'm solo or can use my winch as a recovery point if elsewhere. And if I need to be snatched I can use a bridal to pull on both factory lash down points IF I needed to. I do plan on getting a recovery point one day though. Also there are others that will fit. TrailTailor makes a set for $100 and it's both sides.
3. It comes with fogs and the side marker lights. Any other aux lighting is on you. I went with the ARB intensity style lights because they look the part.