Wow man, sorry about this whole situation... we talked already over PM but I wanted to mention: Sorry about that whole bumper thing.
I was pretty happy with my 4xInnovations rock sliders, they can make those it seems, but wtf are they thinking with these bumpers? Your recovery point bent the bumper enough to hit the flare and fender? What do they expect the bumper to do in an actual offroad situation?
I hope you guys come to some sort of resolution, the idiots who made it should take it back and give you your money. You paid for a real front bumper and you shouldn't get some flimsy/useless/damaging/improperly fitting ripoff.
Go for a Shrockworks and I guarantee you won't be dissatisfied. I didn't install the extra end plates for the frame (waiting on a winch), but it's taken a few hits and pulled a few vehicles without anything other than typical frame flex. Very little clearance between the bumper and fender/flare. I nailed a rock right at the edge of the bumper closest to the tire with no more than slight flare contact, only enough to scratch the powdercoat (same happened with my CBI, happens to all bumpers it seems).
Good luck dude, seriously, this is some messed up **** and no company should be making bumpers if they're doing it this poorly. I say compensation for the fender damage and flare should be accounted for, it was their shoddy work that messed them up...