Like i said above, it really comes down to personal choice. However, in your posts you have said that you and your wife are getting older(I'm 30 and older is also completely subjective). If her comfort is paramount, then I would look into GX460. It's going to have the best of most worlds. They all (gx460) have KDSS and you can get them with crawl control. People may think think they are soft because they are a Lexus, but in reality it is a Land Cruiser Prado which the 4Runner is built off of. You can get a GX with everything the trail has minus the locker....and it will be much nicer inside. Truth be told I have a Trail because I wanted it. My off-roading would be considered weak by many people. I bought it because I wanted the reserve capacity that it offers (and I think it looks the best). In the end, I would drive a few different vehicles, pick the ones that you want and then let your SO decide the one that she will be the most happy in. After all, happy wife=happy life