i'm on the same boat as you. placed a deposit a month after you did. getting the same run around as you too. after i emailed the operations manager about the situation, he assigned me to another salesperson because the salesperson that was originally assigned to my sale wasn't communicating or keeping me updated or as you put it, 'sleeping on the whole thing.' and i agree with you, there's plenty of people that have movement with their allocations, i have that same frustration and getting impatient.
there IS a way to see if an allocation was accepted, but not sure about the specifics. as far as i know, there's no such thing as an 'order.' the dealer places a request for specific model/color and regional can either honor or deny, or send something similar. dealers can also trade with one another before it hits the sales lot. maybe someone on the forums that works at a dealership can help you out.
ive been waiting for a white TRD pro since the deposit has been placed. it will be a long wait, but it's all worth it at the end.
an example of what a dealer can see...
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