the lights will turn off when you lock the vehicle or with a timer, they shouldn't stay on
it sounds like bad ballasts maybe? which kit did you get
definitely don't just replace with a higher amperage fuse, that is never the correct way to deal with a fuse blowing unless you just really enjoy electrical fires
also RIP XenonDepot, they got bought by TRS. Hopefully the quality doesn't suffer, I love my XD Philips bulbs and TRS said they use another source.
In my normal day-today, my lights do turn off when I lock the car (two clicks on the remote) and/or with a timer if not locked or only with one click on the remote. There is a sequence of events that allows them to remain on, however, and I was lucky enough to figure that out the hard way because I didn’t just shut off and lock the car like I normally do (went back and moved the headlight switch after the fact, essentially turning it back on, in an attempt to keep from blowing another fuse when starting the car the next morning, if the lights went on automatically during ignition start). Something to do with the sequence of ignition turning off, door opening and changing headlight switch position. A bit of googling confirms this happens with other years/models, too, apparently. I’m not worried about that part though, lesson learned - I won’t F with the headlight switch after shutting the car off.
I have the XD extreme kit for the 4Runner, 5000k bulbs. I initially thought it’d be a ballast issue when one bulb (fuse) was out. I feel like the odds of both being bad at once is low though, unless by “bad” we just mean higher draw than advertised on startup. It’s especially strange given the fact that the replacement fuses I installed are lower amperage (7.5a) and they have NOT blown since. The difference being when/how I turn the lights on (auto during ignition start popped fuses, while manually switching them on after the car is running does not). If the ballasts were bad, I’d expect they would have popped those fuses no matter when I switched them on.
I’m not interested in upping the amperage on the relay harness fuses due to the known issues that can come with it (unless I can confirm that the wiring can actually handle 12.5a or 15a). Still not ideal but if it comes down to the ballasts just needing more juice than claimed, I can work with that and just build a relay harness with the suitable wire size.
I guess my real question is, does TRS now provide support for XD products, does XD still exist in some fashion and provide support, or am I SOL and left to figure it out on my own?
On a more positive note, the XD LED fogs and high beams I installed at the same time have been great.