I test drove a '10 Pilot and a '10 4R, and came away with that initial "feeling" too. I was also coming out of my second Pathy, which, along with the Pilot seems to just be (what?) "tuned" differently than the 4R.
I believe they must make torque earlier, even with smaller V6's, because they feel quicker. The PF even moreso - it literally jumped off the line - while my first drive of a 4R left me thinking "pooch".
I now (finally) know how to drive the 4R, and how to manage the throttle to get performance, or not. You cannot be timid with it if you want to go. It IS different from any other vehicle I've owned, gotta admit that. But I like it. My 3.5L Pathy rarely returned better than 16-17 mpg, and my 4R stays at 19 city and 22-23 hwy. Not bad for such a big ol' t-e-r-d.
Will I be tempted by the S/C? Hellya, but I'm a guy, and that's what we do. Even us old 'uns.