Summary of Posts that worked best for me...:
For the specific problem in a V8 2003 T4R where shifting from D-4 and esp 3-2-3 becomes increasingly difficult, then floppy/too loose a different t4r.org and this thread had answers that allowed me to fix this with 3 different steps. 1st, the other thread is findable under this title - "Screwed up my auto shifter - loose and floppy". For the issue I've described, there are many very helpful photos and a couple very helpful posts. In any event, since it was a combo of about 5 different posts that I thought were the 'magic' that helped me fix this problem for $5 that I want to summarize what I felt worked best. Since there can be a couple causes to similar issues, if what you are experiencing doesn't match up exactly to what I'm writing, maybe you have too different a problem and need to look elsewhere.
First I think posters agree the root cause of this problem is POOR DESIGN. Over time there is a wearing in of a "groove" from where the spring loaded Pin rides on the underside of the black plastic shifter case box. This spring loaded Pin and the track it rides along is what provides the friction and stop points while shifting. But over time the plastic sleeve the pin rides in is too shallow and/or too weak to withstand the increasing forces from...take your pick; the 'groove' gets bore out too much in P-R-N-D, too much 'dirt/gunk' gets in the grease in the 'groove', you have too many pounding on the shifter to shift incidents, etc. This eventually leads to it to a cracking of the plastic hole and the pin is forced out of the hole going from D-4-D or 3-2-3.
The FixIt Job:
1) Remove the trim around the shifter until you get to the black plastic shifter case box the shift lever moves up/down in (with medium sided white depressible button near the top left of the top of the box).
2) Remove the sheet metal washer clip on the right side of the long pin at the rear of the black shifter case box. Once the long pin is removed, remove the top carefully (the white button has a long plastic arm that could be broken here). Flip over the black case lid to see where this pin rides. This short pin provides a drag on the shifter to keep it from flopping around, and moves around in peaks and valleys to determine the position of the shifter. On my 4Runner, the pin had worn a groove in the standard PRND pattern, but not into the 4321 pattern. The deeper groove in the D position puts extra stress when trying to slide over 4 but also something happens going from 3-2-3 that also puts lots of force on the pin. In any event, it seems the Pin traveling through these areas over time causes the wear in groove and the weakening of the plastic around the spring loaded short pin to crack and become loose in the shifter case. Oh, BTW, I had to remove the 4 bolts of the entire shifter case to lift it up a few inches to find my dang pin. It would not be found with a metal probe!
For steps 3-5 below, I did little bits of each, back and forth. In the many posts on many websites, some people had success with just 1 or 2 of these 3. But, I think doing all 3 may be required and maybe most indicated. Anyway, I would do some of 1 or 2 of these steps, then re-installing the black shifter case box lid and manually hold that lid in place while working the shifter through the gears to asses my progress (I used a screwdriver to gently depress what the white button on the shifter box lid depresses which is what allows you to shift w the car off - but also must be depressed to take keys out of the ignition as that is the 'park' position). Each time I'd use a lite amount of white grease to confirm where my pin was tracking and which areas seemed to be more problematic.
3) I think cutting down the spring under the 'pin' is crucial and helps with needing less epoxy in the next step but also should help prevent this from re-occurring. I did 2 coils on my 1st pass, then another coil, then another 1/2 coil before I liked the 'action' I was getting.
4) Only a person or 2 talked about this step, but I count it as the most important. Build up the plastic the spring loaded pin sits in! Use a quality epoxy that uses 'metal' in the word. And don't build up the epoxy thick at the base and tapering as you get just above the lip of the original hole (I did that and easily broke through my epoxy job). Really use a nice thick base of epoxy and keep it thick all the way to several mm above the original hole. I came up so that only about 40% of the pin was now showing, but not so much that a hard pressure on the pin caused the pin to drop below the level of the epoxy. Let’s say I build it up 5-6mm form original hole height. Obviously keep a well greased pin in the hole during this process! And, I found that though I had to clean up the grease btwn each attempt, I did 4 rounds of building up epoxy before I realized I build it up too much (started not allowing the pin to travel through its full motion needed). So, then I dremeled back a few mm.
5) Likely the most dangerous step as you can always get a new spring if you cut down too much, you can constantly add/subtract epoxy. But, you carve away too much plastic from where the pin tracks and you'll be part hunting I believe. So, Step 5 is dremel tool or sanding or carving away plastic from the track the pin runs through. Cleaning that track and good light/magnification and you should easily be able to see what shape your track is in and perhaps where some shaving away plastic could ease the pin's journey south... Again, though I wasn't having D-4-D stickiness myself, most were and it was easily the largest ledge for my pin to jump, so I ended up carving that down from a ledge to a ramp, and it didn't effect my outcome negatively (i.e. I had good D-4 shifting when all done, but surely the pin is putting less stress on my job over time going forward).
I also did not have issues with the white plastic switch guts. The weird tab/spring thing sticking out near Reverse position is a microswitch. This is intentional. Do not mess with that. It is not a spring hook or anything. You can see and hear it engage when you shift in/out of Park/Reverse.
In the end, I fixed the issue for the cost of the epoxy, and no new parts. Couple hours spread over a few days as I’m pretty picky and had time on my hands.
Work through steps 3-5 with caution esp on the plastic pin track Dremel or sand/carving work.
Disclaimer: I am not a Mechanic!