The turn signal relay is behind the fuse box, or "Junction Block". I personally replaced all of my turn indicators with LEDs and the
SmartTap module that Diode Dynamics sells.
I didn't take any pictures while I did the work, but you'll need to remove the under-dash housing, unplug some of the plugs going into the "Junction Block", and undo some screws if I remember correctly. Then you can maneuver the Junction Block so you have access to the backside, unplug the original flasher relay, and replace it with your LED flasher relay.
If that whole area looks different to you, you should probably post a photo.
EDITED TO ADD:
I just noticed that you said you have daytime running lights. I think I read that it's different for 4Runners with DRLs. At the very least, Diode Dynamics says their SmartTap module is not compatible with trucks equipped with DRLs. Unfortunately I can't help you there since my truck wasn't configured with DRLs from factory.
ONE MORE EDIT:
I found more info for you, the relays are definitely different between non-DRL and DRL equipped 4Runners. But there is an adapter available that apparently Toyota does make. More info here:
4th Gen flasher relay | Tacoma World