ok ok ok.... I didn't disappear. Ive been working nights.
So, after frantically (and annoyingly) going through all the suggestions on the thread (thank you very much for everyone who chimed in), I folded and sent her to the shop.
It took them 1 1/2 days of looking for issue, then called and said it was my worst nightmare.....
a damn fuse :attention:
The IGT fuse under the hood they said was not placed securely, which could have been the issue to make it pop. I don't think I ever pulled that fuse though.
Either way, I missed that one when I check over the fuses.... so with my pride hurting, the 4runner is back in working condition.
Message to take home: don't worry on your vehicle when you are too tired to make sure you check the fine details....