The key here is not to marry someone you need to "Get Permission From!"
Are you marrying your Mom? I have never asked for permission from a woman to do Anything, and I never expect a woman to ask Me for permission for anything.
Do it if you want to, or just cut your nuts off now.
A grown adult knows and respects their partner, and themselves enough to already know what is right and hopefully what is right is simply being yourself....at least that is my humble opinion. Nobody shoulkd be "Kissing -ass" in a healthy relationship.
No, I did not watch Dr. Phil!!
Lift the f**ker!!