Always seen your name around the forums, you seem like mostly a lurker but usually have some solid stuff to say when you speak up. Just now saw your build thread and read through. I can relate with changing directions several times, especially going in the "hybrid" route/closer to the all purpose machine that leans more towards road manners. I've gone mostly that direction with my rig, trying to keep it as reliable and awesome as possible, but largely stock as well to keep it as "forward/future compatible" as possible.
Keep up the great work, curious to see where this goes. Perhaps for your DDing, you could leave off the swing out and the Hi-Lift? just do the simple rear and the front? At the very least, I would keep the front, that helps to keep a bit of your aggressive look that says "I know what I'm doing" (both from the sense that you really know how to build stuff but also that you want to get stuff outta your way (Love my ARB)). And I really like both of your bumpers, the lines are awesome. Also, glad you're focused on keeping your family a priority and keeping an eye/focus on them, that's awesome.