Wow, I know this is your opinion, which I will respect, but it almost looks like a 'troll' post! You bought a vehicle that has been out for a year, you should have known what it was mechanically and the looks physically, and if you bought it well you accept those.
'Soft Offroaders' - are you kidding me? This is not a Highlander or Escape!
Traction Control works perfect - how is it 'all over the place' - please explain that?
Personally I LOVE the steering wheel, I use that bottom middle part to drive all the time, much better than any SUV I have driven.
A-TRAC does not work, since when? Have you seen the videos people have posted?? It has gotten them out of some pretty interesting situations. I personal got stuck (on purpose) and used A-TRAC to get out (testing it), and it work perfect! Sure a locker would help, but that is why there is the TE.
I have had a lot of people compliment my leather package, I know some are not a fan, but everyone I know is.
'Qucik' is a relative term, coming from a sports car, no, coming most most other vehicles I think the 4R is pretty quick, but then again, we did not buy a sports car, did we?
Again, I understand these are your 'feelings/opinions' but I have to say I think you need to find one of the dealerships that will let you take home the car for a weekend to fully test out, not saying that to be rude. That way you can get the full feeling without rushing or having some annoying sales guy with you. Take your time with it and make sure you are 100% next time with whatever you purchase.