You have some options here even if you don't want to do the work yourself or don't have a place to do it yourself...
The first thing you can do is break down the shop quotes on the list of everything you need. From there you can either buy the parts yourself and pay a shop to install them. (Which saves money as most shops deal with only 1-2 vendors for parts that don't always stock or price what you would want.)
The next option you have is to call around to shops in your area and ask what they would charge in labor and give them a specific task that you would like done. (Replace tie rods, shocks, ect.) This way you're keeping control of the service and only paying for the work that you authorized to have completed.
The last option you have and not my favorite of the 3 is to sell the truck. Quite honestly any used vehicle you buy will require some work, regardless of mileage. I picked up my '99 4Runner about a month ago for $8,000 and I've put almost $1000 into it since then by changing out all of the fluids in the tranny, both dif's, transfer case, air filter, fuel filter, spark plugs, plug wires, coolant flush, timing belt and water pump... Putting some money into my 4Runner was a no brainer for me, because I plan to drive this truck for the next 10+ years. I love the way it drives, looks, and parts are stupid easy to come by for these things. (Just ask my sister who had a Saturn Vue when the water pump went out... Rather than sit on a waiting list for the part, she traded it in on a Toyota Camry and has been happy ever since.)
As stated by others in this thread, I would turn this opportunity into a positive and use the money to really buy an awesome front suspension for your truck. You could order a Total Chaos suspension and have something you feel a lot better about that you put into it. For most of us, that's how this goes... The philsophy is that you are investing in the long-haul so when something wears out or breaks, you replace it with the best possible part out there and drive it for another 100,000 miles. That's the Toyota Owner's way... : )