i have yet to find a tool you can buy that will remove any of the toyota pins. i have been depinning for a few years now and took alot of practice and good eyes. i have made a few depinning tools but it still takes work. filed down paper clips to filed down pocket screwdriver. its hard to explain how to depin. you have to pop that release tap on top like you have. than you look from the front of the connector. its hard to explain but theres a little tab above or below the pin depending on which way your holding it. you have to push up or down on the tab and remove the pin at the same time. takes practice. its possible to damage the connector. best bet is to take it a toyota dealer and see if they would do it for you