desertice,
I'm new to this forum, but have owned my 2010 SR5 for 8 months. Here are a few thoughts for you. I looked at a 4R with 3rd row seats before I bought and can tell you (if you haven't looked already) that the 3rd row is nearly useless. Unless your kids are dwarfs or are under 8 years old and won't grow any bigger, they won't really fit. If they need car seats, they won't fit. With the 3rd row up, there is only room for a slice of bread between them and the rear gate, so forget taking anything else with you. Even with 3rd row the 4R is still really only a 5 passenger vehicle. OK, in a pinch someone could cram back there, but only for a short trip, and it won't be me. (and I'm small). Take the whole family with you to the lot, car seats and all, and see how or if everyone fits and how comfortable they are. I have two kids in car seats and when they are in the back seats of the 4R there is not room for another adult. (anyone with car seats knows how bulky they can be) We also have an 07 Sienna van which really is a 6 or 7 passenger vehicle with room for luggage. Don't overlook the new Sienna for your family. (also available AWD ,good crash scores and not bad looking for a van) So you don't like vans? Look at the Ford Flex... a surprisingly roomy wagon,also available AWD...huge price tag though when you get everything you want on it. I'm lucky...4R for me, and the van for the family.