Quick Update: Finally had a chance to go back into the dealer, the service manager looked at the headlights and confirmed that they were abnormal. He approved the replacement and they have ordered parts numbered 81130-35530 and 81170-35530. I also mentioned to him how other people on here have had the same issue in which he said that it doesn't have to be approved by the regional supervisor and that a dealer can put it through - only reason some dealers want a toyota rep to approve it is incase the defective part isn't cleared once it gets sent in, they don't get reimbursed and take the loss.
on a side note, thanks to Harper7 i just asked about the tsb numbers you posted earlier this week and one of them applied to my truck, i would have never known had you not posted it so thanks for the help.