dont know if santa brought you that OME lift you wanted, but if you remember my rear bumper from the richloam trip, dont worry about it, its a bumper!! spend any insurance money on making that 4runner a machine!! sorry to hear you got hit, glad your okay
Ask the girl what her deductible is for the collision, then convince her to just pay you that amount. Then take it and run, get some steel on the rear,or just hammer it out and see how it looks.
The problem still exists... The driver of the F350 is THE liability here.
This problem should be resolved by talking to the girls father, i.e. man to man. Just be sure to have your insurance quotes there as your negotiation tool.
