So.... here's the deal. I talked to my roommates tonight and they suggested to just trade in my SR5 instead of modding it. Their logic was that a soccer mom who wants the best MPG out of her 4runner would not be interested in a modded out 2wd 4runner. So, if I mod out a 2wd the soccer mom won't want it, but the offroad enthusiast will not want it either.
Their suggestion was to suck it up, get it right this time around and then drive the TE 4runner until it goes to the salvage lot. I think I'll go back to the dealer I bought it from when I get back from my deployment. Maybe they can help me out. At least I'll have the loyal customer argument on my side.
If you have a few weeks between deployments, why not try to sell it yourself first? Then try the trade in route. You could save many thousands.......just saying.