My own complaint is the lack of auto-rollup for the back window and the lack of a button to turn off the VCS or ATRAC.
As to the other complaints...
Cupholders: True, they don't fit "exactly" everything, but they do a pretty good job of holding bottles and coffee mugs. Haven't had one spill over on me yet when it's properly adjusted. My advice to the complainers is -- slow the fark down! And the cupholder lights - I drive on dark streets most of the time, and having a little light in there helps guide the container into the slot just a bit easier.
The Recirc button: For me, having it on all the time is a blessing as I have seasonal allergies. Most of the time I think I've wanted it ON more than OFF. It seems to stay in whatever mode you put it during restarts. I leave my controls in auto most of the time, so it doesn't bother me.