Yup, next step is t follow the instructions in the post by my doppelganger El Durko. He's pretty smart, except he lives in New Jersey, but we don't hold that against him. I have some time issues at the moment so I'll chime in as I can.
For the record, [MENTION=99840]Twan[/MENTION] and another thread [MENTION=10169]TheDurk[/MENTION] and I collaborated on both ended up needing to replace the cluster. That is why I short circuited to ask you about that right away. I know another 3rd gen owner who never uses his switch, actually two if you count me. So I'm a little skeptical about you never having that feature, but we'll address that as it becomes necessary.
I am inclined to have you jumper the pin you tested for ground (#3 at the headlight relay) to ground and check for operation. This takes the Main DRL out of the loop. Ideally you need to attach a wire to the back side of the relay wiring and ground that wire. Since you said you had ground at the white wire, the DRL # 4 should be working and by proxy, the cluster is allowing headlight "ON". If I confused you, or myself, I'm sure LeDurk will straighten it out. He's a straight shooter.